In worldly tradition we are taught the value of attaching (bonding) to people or things. Yet as you read along this posting you will probably understand why Father Says we must learn to relate in a new and different way that allows us and others to retain our own individual sovereignty and walk with the Father. The problem is not in having friends or things but in becoming attached or secured to them.
This time, rather than expounding on the meaning of these words, I will simply convey the definitions from the dictionary I have been using throughout this exploration.
Attach:
- To fasten; join or connect
- Bind by ties of affection or regard
- In law, to take (persons or property) by legal authority
- Lay hold of; seize
Bind:
- Unite as by some moral or legal tie
- Confine or restrict
- Make costive
- Constrain or oblige
- Put under legal obligation
- Indenture as an apprentice
Ties
- To bind or make fast with a cord, string, or the like drawn together and knotted, as one thing to another or two things together
- Unite in marriage
- To restrain or constrain
- Confine, restrict, or limit
- Bind or oblige, as to do something
Regard [ back, again + guard: cf. reward]
- To look upon or think of with a particular feeling
- To contemplate or view mentally
Re-ward:
- To regard
- Something given or received in return or recompense for service, merit, hardship, etc
Ward:
- The act of keeping guard or protective watch
- The act of keeping restraining watch
- Keeping charge or control by a protector or guardian
- The state of being under restraining guard or custody
- The sate of being subject to feudal wardship
- A prison
Wardship
- In feudal law of an heir of a deceased tenant until of age, with control of the tenant’s lands, as belonging to the lord
Affection [ see affect (1)]:
- The act of affecting or the resulting state
- Disposition or state of mind
- Inclination
- A modification
- A disease or malady
Affect (1):
- Produce an effect on
- To move in mind or feeling
- Touch
Affect (2) [see affect (1)]:
- To pretend or feign
- The act of affecting, striving after, or pretending
- Effort to present the appearance of something
- Studied or false show
- Artificiality of manner
Affecting:
- Moving
- Touching
- Pathetic
Pathetic: [ < suffer]
- Affecting or moving the feelings
- Full of pathos
Pathos: [< suffer]
- Suffering
- The quality of power, as in speech, writing, music, a scene or occurrence, etc., of rousing a feeling of pity or sympathetic sadness
Suffer:
- To undergo, experience, or be subjected to (pain, distress, injury, loss, or anything unpleasant…)
- Undergo a penalty, esp. of death
- Sustain injury, detriment, disadvantage, or loss
Secure:
- Careless, overconfident
- To seize and confine, as a prisoner
- Get hold or possession of
- Free from or not exposed to danger
Many times, we allow ourselves to become attached or seek to attach / bond to others in our need to feel “loved and accepted” as well as safe from danger and thus protected. It is easier to think things are better when we have friends, “loved ones”, and things. Yet the emptiness and unfulfillment remains. Fear is still present.
Father has explained to us that “Love and Acceptance” comes freely from Him and through Him. Father has explained to us that our Safety is in Him and it is free. No strings attached. Of course, this is all obtained on an individual basis. In this knowing, we can then relate differently with each other for we no longer look unto them for something they will never be able to provide in any meaningful and enduring way.
Friendships between non needy, non deceiving, non attaching, non controlling, non demanding, safe, healthy, sane, nourished, and creative individuals who look up to the Father and walk with the Father… can you imagine such Blessings and Freedom?