Attract:
- To draw to one’s self or itself
- Act upon by an inherent physical force compelling approach or union
- To draw by some moral force or influence
- Invite, allure, win
Force:
- Strength or power
- Strength for war
- Physical coercion; violence; specif., in legal use, unlawful violence offered to persons or things [Martin’s note: as if there is such a thing a lawful violence]
- Power to influence or control
- Ravish or violate
- Compel (a player) to play so as to make known the strength of his hand
Draw
- To cause to come in a particular direction as by a pulling force
- Lead or take along
- Take in as by sucking or inhaling
- Disembowel (a fowl, a condemned person, etc.)
- Levy or call (on) for money, supplies, etc.
- Make demands; make a formal written demand, as for money due or on deposit
Attraction is then the use of a person’s energy to physically and morally coerce, violate, influence, and control someone else. The purpose of this is to allow the person doing the “attracting” to trick the target into accepting the levy / demand / cal for money or supplies. That is to say, love, attention, service, body or whatever else “satisfies” the hunger / lust / need of that person.
This kind of behavior is specifically active during the time in which people solicit each other so as to fulfill the need to end the loneliness and / or comply with the “moral” obligations of society which compels men and women to marry and have children by a certain age, lest they be found defective or unworthy. “You are still single? You haven’t found anyone? You are not having children?”
In society this behavior is called “dating”. What is the end goal of this behavior? To win. To win what you may ask? Let’s find out.
Win: [labor, strive, suffer]
- To succeed by striving or effort
- To get by efforts, through labor, competition, or conquest
- Often to persuade to love or marriage, or gain in marriage
The purpose of using attraction is then to persuade someone to love (which is really lust or sex) or to marriage. That is of course the entire object of dating: to get laid or to find someone to marry. However, as many have found out, this “dating game” does not work and often times results in mistakes and mismatches that lead to a lot of misery and pain, not the least of which is the braking of people’s heart. This is indeed cruelty.
That this “dating game” is designed for failure and pain should be apparent by that which defines the meaning of the word “attraction”: force, coercion, violation, levy, demand; and by the word “win”: strive, suffer, competition, conquest. These are all antagonistic behaviors.
Strive:
- To contend in opposition or antagonism
- Contend in fight, battle, or any violent conflict
- Exert one’s self or endeavor vigorously
- To contend in rivalry or vie, as with a competitor
Contend:
- To struggle in opposition
- To make vigorous efforts
- Compete
- To strive in debate; dispute earnestly, argue
While people may think all is innocence and beauty, that they are so blessed to have the attention from another who is “interested” in them, in reality, they are setting themselves for failure because of the behavior that is involved in this.
Let’s look briefly at two descriptive words found in the definition of “attract”: invite and allure.
Invite:
- To ask, in a kindly, courteous, or complimentary way, to come or go to some place, gathering, entertainment, etc.
- Attract, allure, or tempt
Of course it usually starts with a kind introduction or “friendly” request to go somewhere. Yet it is still the case that the word “invite” is directly related to attracting, alluring, and tempting; all of which are driving forces behind the initial solicitation.
Tempt:
- To try or test; hence, to put to the test or proof in a venturesome way
- Act presumptuously toward, risk provoking, or provoke
- To try to dispose or incite, or assail with enticements, esp. to evil
Many who have been involved in the “dating game” know of this either because they have experienced it, done it to others, or both. The testing to see if someone is ready, the venturesome / adventurous advances or insinuations or activities, the provocation, and the enticement.
Allure:
- Tempt by inherent charm
- Appeal to invitingly or seductively
From the exploration in SP 12a, we know that to charm is to use spells or incantation and thus majik. This explains why People get infatuated.
Seduce:
- To lead or draw away, as from one’s chosen course, accepted principles, faith, allegiance, etc., by persuasions or inducements
Here we have one of the reasons why this kind of behavior has been introduced by the unrighteous – unholy, because it is designed to lead or draw away the People from their chosen course, the accepted principles of right and wrong, and their Faith in the Father / Creator. When I speak of “course, principles, faith”, I speak of that which is the Truth of who People are and of what People came here to do in the Father Way.
What about the longing to find your other half? This is a noble Desire which indeed can be fulfilled when you understand that the “other half” is a part of who you are. You are looking for yourself and it is possible to reclaim this part of yourself that is “missing”. The Father Way leads to this. This restoration to wholeness, Love as Self, is part of this walk with the Father.
What about the loving feelings that two honest people experience “toward” each other, especially at the beginning, that changes their perception of the world into a most wonderful experience where everything seem right once again? These are indeed noble feelings. They are moments during which people have the opportunity to experience the Love that they are. Father calls them moments of Transcendence which in our lack of understanding, we attach to mortal experience.
It availeth you not to struggle in the world,
when the Father is but a moment away.
You seek not to dishonor or disservice
that which has come before,
yet you seek not for Righteousness sake.
This means that while it availeth you not,
you seek to Honor that which dishonors you.
Shift your focus / perception
but slightly, just slightly
and all will be well.