In my journey with Father, He made it clear that there was a need to cleanse myself from that which obstructed having a healthy perception and relation with Him. He explained to both Linda and I that He cannot Bless and Guide anyone in His Wisdom as long as we have hidden "grudges" against Him. These grudges literally limit one's capacity to receive the Abundance of the Father and thus, in a way perpetuate whatever sense of the Father one has.
For example, lets say you need Guidance and seek the Father for it and He responds generously. However, because how your grudges affect your perception and function of your being, you can't receive it. This means that even though the Father answered your request, to your perception He didn't. The tendency in this situation would be to project whatever grudges you have unto the Father and say, "see, you are... and didn't...and left me..." Never recognizing that it is not Him but rather you who needs to make changes.
One way Father suggested I become aware of the grudges I had with Him and free myself from them, was to evaluate my relationship with my biological father. Father explained to us that a biological father is meant to be His representative on Earth. A biological father is meant to teach us of the Father and provide the Guidance the Father would have for us until we reach an age in which we can begin our own walk with the Father. This is how it is meant to be. As a representative of the Father, your biological father would live in Abundance and behave with Respect and Integrity, Peace and Joy, Strength and Safety toward each of his children, just as the Father Which Is in Heaven would and does. This is why children are naturally trusting of their parents and cannot conceive of the idea that their parents would do something to hurt them. As children we inherently know Father Which Is in Heaven would never hurt and misguide us, and so we expect the same of our biological father.
Yet, life as we know it, is far removed from this. A child who sees his / her own biological father behave in ways that are destructive and abusive may eventually reach the conclusion that this behavior is indicative of who the Father Which Is in Heaven is and what can be expected of Him. That is to say, how your biological father behaves toward you, becomes your basis / expectation of how you will relate to the Father.
How was your relationship to your biological father? How did he behave toward you as a child? How does he behave toward you now? Do you Respect (which is not the same as obey) (1) your father? Does he Respect you? As you recognize each distorted behavior and interaction you had or have with your biological father, two opportunities present themselves.
One, is to begin making choices to no longer participate in an unhealthy relationship. Gently expect to be treated with Respect, as equals. You are not the eternal child that has to obey / please his biological father to obtain love and approval. Choose to not play. If you father persists in unhealthy behavior, you remove yourself from the situation. "Oh, got to go." "Seems this is not a good time to talk, good bye." Change the topic of conversation, ask for Divine Intervention. When all the pain, sorrow, and so on surfaces, lay them on the Altar of Divine Love and Divine Power in Exchange for Peace and Knowledge of who you are as Love. Remember, there are no enemies, no one to defeat, no one to convert and that includes your biological father. The goal is to reach a point in which each one can Respect each others choices and be at Peace with each other. If this is not possible, then that is ok. You behave with Respect, allow yourself to be at Peace with your biological father's choices and remove yourself from the situation.
The other opportunity is to free your perception and relation with the Father Which Is in Heaven from the unhealthy behavior you learned from your biological father. "Oh, I see, my biological father behaved in such and such way and I was expecting the same from the Father. Now that I recognize this, I can choose to do it differently. Thank you Father for showing me Your Way."
Step by step. Some take longer than others, just remain focused on the goal: To Know yourSelf as Love so as to begin your journey in the Father's Way.
(1) Go to "Respect in the Father's Way" to read more about Respect.