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When a Person gets focused on an area of change in their life, it can happen that other areas are forgotten.
It could be so with regard to self-will and attack / defense.
Focusing on self-will and wondering why things aren't going well, may be an indication that a Person is engaging / playing, attack / defense.
Especially defense from aggressive attack behavior such as anger, blame, degrading, and from passive attack behavior such as forgetting, breaking, ignoring.
Meeting aggression with aggression appears justified, but history records the almost 100% failure rate of this response.
If you are sure you are not engaging one of the above mistakes, check the other.
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