To quote a Stargate episode:
"It takes as long as it takes"
And this is ok.
As it turns out, we could all greatly benefit from giving ourselves permission to take care of our selves first before entering into relationships and conceiving children.
For… how can someone become a lifeguard without first learning how to swim?
How can someone who is hurt have a healthy relationship without healing the hurt?
How can someone be a good parent without first experiencing the Good Will and Intent of the Father and His Love for humanity?
How can anyone impart to a child an experience of the Father while being alienated from Nature?